Hi beautiful people!
It’s time for some truth talk. Are you ready?
Here’s the thing . . . I’m sitting at my desk right now, starting to work on this new project that I just know will be super helpful to many of you, and I’m finding myself hitting some sticking points.
For me, these are things like, should I include this? Is it okay to do it like this? Should I format it like this or like **this**?
And then there’s this voice in my head that says, maybe I ought to ask someone about this stuff, make sure I’m not screwing it all up.
But these thoughts are problematic.
No, it’s not bad to ask for help or guidance when you need it. In fact, asking for help can be a powerful act of humility, and can help you reach your goals waaaaaay faster and with much less stress.
BUT . . .
When asking for help turns into waiting for permission, it’s no bueno.
So what’s the difference between asking for help and waiting for permission?
Needing permission comes from a place of self-doubt and lack of confidence. It’s about wanting an external guarantee that what I’m about to do is not only not a bad idea (i.e. won’t get me in trouble), but will also give me the results I’m after.
It’s about not trusting myself, being afraid to make mistakes, and procrastinating until someone else has told me I’m headed in the right direction.
Asking for help, on the other hand, is about acknowledging that another person’s insight, knowledge, and support is of tremendous value and will help me reach my goals.
But, when asking for help, I’m not waiting for it to arrive to get started. Instead, I work towards my goals and incorporate the insight, knowledge, and support of others to my decisions and actions carefully and with my own consideration of what works best for me.
Asking for help comes from a place of self-love and personal growth. Waiting for permission comes from a place of fear and self-doubt.
I bring this up because, if you’re anything like me, waiting for permission is something you’ve struggled with before, and it might even be sabotaging you now!
Waiting for permission, especially when it comes to your own health and happiness, strips you of your power. It lures you into relying on someone else and losing touch with what’s going on in your own body, soul, and intuition.
So, if you find yourself seeking help, but deep down you know you’re *really* seeking permission, I urge you take a breath, check in with yourself, trust your intuition, and move forward. You got this!
Health and happiness,